He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo Review

I think it’s really hard for young people to feel hopeful about the dating scene. Left and right are horror stories that happen to even the best of people that we know, but I honestly don’t want to believe that we’re destined to be forever wasting our time and lives on horrible people and having a list of options in case the current situation likely goes up in flames like all the rest, being forever disillusioned to the romantic warm idea of love and acceptance in romantic relationships. This book came into my life at a time I really needed it and it did the trick to snap me out of my stupor of giving up on finding what I know I deserve.

I know this is a love it or hate it kind of book, evident from reviews one may find online, but I loved it. It’s funny, down to earth, and straightforward, it seriously addresses real concerns that many women still have when it comes to dealing with dating and love, and simply losing hope with men. Most straight women are in relationships or situationships with men who are pretty terrible, and it's become the norm to accept that women date below what we'd expect of someone of their personality and caliber of character. The dating scene has only gotten worse since this was published in 2004, it seems that everywhere I look or speculate, it’s a hellish landscape of fear of commitment and avoidance. This book says every time we don’t draw the line and maintain our self respect we allow men and people to continue on treating people in that way and since no one ever enforces their boundaries or allows it, they think it’s acceptable. No one’s obligated to be attracted to anyone, this book says to stop making excuses for people who do not respect you by assuming you must be the exception to their less than stellar track record and move on from them, to never stray from your standards. I'd recommend this short volume to anyone who needs a reality check or a little hope that there’s better out there.